All about Oliver

Oliver's only profile pic

I asked Oliver out. However, Oliver initiated contact. Ages ago. His initial message was a single worded Dr. Who reference. I checked out his profile and was a bit skeeved to discover he had one headless photo and claimed his work prevented him posting his face.  For the uninitiated, that usually means married.

For some reason I replied anyway, asking why the secrecy?  He replied and said that he works in higher ed and has run into enough students online dating that he was getting skeeved out himself.  Ok, that sounded reasonable enough to me.  I decided to see where this went.

We then carried on a Twitter-esque back and forth for well over a week. Our short messages were devoid of meaningful discussion as we were both trying to come off witty and wry. This worked for me.  He sent me a photo of himself (perfect facsimile below) and didn't look like a serial killer.  Anyway, I grew impatient and late last night asked Oliver if he wanted to go out sometime. I then proceeded to fall asleep watching British TV on my computer.
I woke up this morning feeling a bit recovered from my cold, turned to my computer and checked my email and the weather. Oliver had replied in his usual snarky and adorable manner accepting my invitation. Yay.
Nope, hold that yay.


OKCupid email notifications contain the first 10 words or so of a message - one must log in to read a message in its entirety. I did as much only to find 5 messages from Oliver between 11:20 pm and 12:15 am. The first two directly responded to my invitation for a date and were very much in character with our previous conversation. However, there were three additional strange messages. that were sent within 10 minutes of one another and had a very impatient tone.

Here are the three later messages (keep in mind my last message explicitly asked, "Do you want to go out sometime.")
1: Do you want to meet?
2: Yo. 

I'm actually flirting with you.
3: You free Tuesday after 8:30?

This immediately annoyed me.  Did he want to meet me right then, at approximately 11:30 pm on a Thursday after days and days of not talking about anything in particular?  Did he just expect me to sit there and respond to his messages (we're not talking instant messages here)?  I responded to (1) with, "did my previous message not imply as much?" responded to (2) with "did a drunk teenager overtake your OKCupid account" and I just didn't reply to (3) at all.

He replied to the teenager comment and said, no, he thought I'd like to meet and wondered why I hadn't responded so he got a "bit cheeky."  Pshhh.  I can think of a cheek-adjacent body part that would be a more appropriate description.

Am I just being absurd?  It very much rubbed me the wrong way.  Megan and Sadie, should I go out with him? Anyone else read this?