Why I'm Tired of Going on First Dates

1. I'm tired of explaining my job.  My job is fine, I find it mildly interesting, but it is insanely boring to explain to people.  And let's be honest, most other people's jobs are pretty boring to hear about, so add hearing about other people's jobs to that list.

Layla is Tired; Her Life is Hard

2. I'm tired of thinking of different bars to go to, because the waitstaff at the most convenient/first-date-appropriate bars are going to start thinking I'm an escort.  Finding a good first date bar is tricky: it needs to be low-key enough that it's not packed and you can have a conversation, but enjoyable enough that you're not the only two people in there.  It's also convenient to find a place easily accessible via public transportation so no one has to worry about drinking/driving.  The Square-O-Bars closest to me is awesome for Sunday-Thursday night dates, but largely too crowded for Friday or Saturday night dates. Standing near a bar in a group of strangers and shouting over said strangers and/or bar music is not ideal.

3. I'm tired of worrying that my date is going to think I'm icky.

Me, trying on a (very unappealing) first date outfit

4. I'm tired of trying to find good first date outfits.  I'm vain, I admit.  I want a first date to think I'm attractive and at least somewhat appealing, even if I think they're the icky one.  Being out of shape and less-than thrilled with my physical appearance means strategic first date outfit choice is key.  Turns out this isn't really a big deal, as long as I avoid the pitfall of the same-bar-every-Friday-night-with-a-different-guy, I can more or less just wear the same outfit every first date.  Second date I'm far less concerned about looking appealing (I still attempt, but feel less pressure I suppose) because, theoretically, he finds me at least marginally attractive if we're going out again.

5. I'm tired of being disappointed by these dates.

Despite all these cranky complaints, I'm quite looking forward to my make-up date with Mr. Manners tomorrow (Friday) evening at an establishment of my choosing that I think will be a good first-date choice.  Mr. M seems very polite and kind and in possession of a sense of humor.  I'm working on approaching these dates with cautious optimism.