Between January 2011 and March 2012: My douchbag ex made an awesome habit of falling asleep on the couch and thereby standing me up (among other asshole behavior).*
Several weeks ago (maybe 3?): I OKCupid messaged BigRed because he seemed normal and one of his profile pictures featured his giant cute floppy-looking dog. Also, he lives nearby me and I'm way lazy.
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| An unfortunate theme of my dating life: naps |
Approximately January 3: I hadn't heard from the Red but I could see he was checking out my profile so I messaged and said Happy New Year!
Approximately January 4: He replied and said Touche, and I have no idea why.
Approximately January 5: I recommended we get a drink sometime.
Approximately January 6: We exchanged numbers and the weird texting began.
Between January 6 and today: Regular texting, with at least three awkward exchanges that had to be explained and quasi-apoligzed for, ending with plans being made for this Friday.
Yesterday: the Redster wound up having Tuesday evening off and convinced me to skip yoga in order to hang out with him. We texted back and forth and I agreed to forgo the yoga and hang out, perhaps going for a dog walk. I went home from work, put on jeans - not yoga gear - and waited for BigRed to respond to my last text. And waited.
Several hours later: I texted a nearby pal and elicited an invitation to her residence. We had wine and she taught me to play backgammon. It was a blast. Part way through the 2d bottle of wine, Big Red texted to inform me that he had fallen asleep and that is why I was essentially stood up. See image at right for convo.Today: BigRed texted and asked, "did my nap ruin our plans Friday?" I got some sage Facebook advice, replied that I don't do well with dudes who fall asleep and stand me up, but alas, we are going out Friday.
I am not ok with this type of behavior: I felt like shit for ages because someone else did the exact same thing to me repeatedly and never apologized. Oh, and you may notice that BigRed never apologized for this incident. I am 98% more likely to get over something if the person who wronged me apologizes, because this acknowledges that they did something which was rude, inconsiderate or upsetting to me. In summary, absent my little pledge to go out with everyone, I would not be going out with BigRed this week. But, here we are, for my edification and (hopefully) for your amusement.
Another reason to give Biggie a chance: much of this awkwardness could easily be chalked up to miscommunication and mis-read tones in text messaging. I think its a bad idea to attempt to communicate anything other than the most basic, necessary information with a person you have never met. Consider this a public service anouncement.
In awesome, non-douchey news, I am going out with Schmidt again! Weehooooo
*I recognize, now, that it was absolutely absurd to have tolerated this douche-baggery for so long.
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